Get Ready for Love

Perhaps finding love needs to be tackled in the same way as finding a job? After all, both require a lot of  time, energy, and a shift in focus, to get desirable results. Out job-hunting, you might have to make twenty contacts for just one of those to turn into something with future potential. Dating is kind of like that, so be courageous and go forward with a mix of persistance and patience. Stepping into love needs to take serious priority over most other things, for a concentrated amount of time. Make yourself available, really available. Spruce yourself up. Feel attractive, and be interested and interesting. Let your circle of friends and acquaintances know that you are ready to meet someone, and give them some specifics about the kinds of people you find attractive.

Some friends love to play cupid. Be willing to look at how you move through your days, how you spend your time, and pinpoint the things you do or don’t do that are a barrier to meeting a possible partner. If you aren’t sure, ask people who care about you for feedback. Most people who say they can’t find anyone, are not looking in the right places (let’s face it – no one has ever found a date under the pillow on the couch at home); unrealistically aiming for the wrong type of person;
harboring a belief system that could do with changing; not stepping outside their routines. (Why not walk to work, drive a different way, have a coffee at a different cafe, get out of town to a new town or city, take a class, or go somewhere out of character?)

 If you really want to be successful, make a list of all the things you love about yourself. Include the qualities that make you an ideal catch – physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Add your values, strengths, and of course your unique personality traits. Next, make up a ‘shopping for love’ list and this time write down all of the qualities that you long for in a partner. Be realistic and hopeful.  List details in a positive light. Instead of writing down that you don’t want anyone with addictions, or anyone who is disloyal, write down that you want someone who is a moderate drinker, who doesn’t do drugs, who is loyal. Don’t ever feel greedy for asking for so much, when you know you have so much to give.

by Leanne French – www.leannefrench.com