Leanne French. www.madltd.co.nz
Just be brave and begin again. Light a new fire by consciously choosing to be a loving person. Step closer and make yourself emotionally available and be willing to love and give generously. Value the incredible amount of energy and effort that has already gone into building what you have together and trust that you can find the resources to make it even better. Remember that you have what lots of single people long for, so rather than throw it all away, nurture what you already have and make it better than before. Nothing brings back sexy quicker than feeling praised, special, valued and adored.
It’s easy to do:
• Just honestly flatter your partner.
• Take an interest in something they feel passionate about.
• Focus on ways to make their life more fulfilling.
• Offer praise out loud, especially in front of other people.
• Pay attention to the ways in which you are already loved and given to, rather than control, criticize or complain.
• Create ritual in your relationship, simple things like eating at the dinner table together, hugging hello and goodbye and going to bed at the same time.
• Discuss your favourite haunts, and wild adventures you would like to go on.
• Do new things to break routine and create new positive memories.
• Play snakes and ladders or draughts or hunt out an old game like barrel of monkeys or pick up sticks and challenge each other to a competition.
• Read stories out loud at bedtime.
• Go on picnics.
• Bathe or shower together.
• Dance.
• Invite spontaneity into your relationship and don’t be afraid to be silly and have a laugh.
• Go for an evening walk.
• Celebrate anniversaries and special occasions.
• Leave sexy notes. Write them in lipstick on the mirror, or chalk on the pavement, or on post-it notes in their diary, or just slip one into their pocket.
• Make love in unusual places, be creative, intimate and mostly relax and have fun.
• Talk about how you met and the exciting things you have done together. Reminiscing keeps those embers alive.
